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Friday, April 17, 2015

Sermon on TREC-CT


Rev. Molly F. James, PhD
Retired Clergy Gathering
April 16, 2015, Feast Day of Molly Brant

May God’s Word be spoken. May God’s Word be heard. May that point us to the Living Word who is Jesus Christ our Lord.

It is 8am on a Wednesday morning. I sit at a table at Effie’s Place in West Hartford, sipping coffee and chatting with friends. We have just come from celebrating the 7:15 Eucharist at Grace Church in Hartford. I was the celebrant on this morning, and am on my way to work, and so I am wearing my clerical collar. There are six others at the table. All men, and most of them have children who are older than I am. Clearly we seem to make an interesting group, because about half way through breakfast an older lady comes up and asks me, “What is this?” I explain that we are sharing breakfast after Church. I come later to learn that a significant portion of the clientele at Effie’s are Roman Catholic, and so I begin to realize why a young, female cleric with a bunch of older men would be such a surprising sight!

In some ways I can understand her surprise. All of the others at the table grew up in a Church that used the 1928 Prayer Book and where only men were priests. Three of the men at the table are retired priests and were all ordained before 1976. In my case, women have been priests longer than I have been alive, and I have only ever known the “new” Prayer Book as our Book of Common Prayer. On the surface it could seem that we have little in common. And yet I cherish these Wednesday morning breakfasts. There is much laughter at that table. The conversations range from the mundane to the sublime. There is talk of church, of politics, of history, of the things of daily life. And I think these Wednesday morning breakfasts have something to offer our gathering and conversation here today.

Today is the feast day of Molly Brant. If you were following Lent Madness then this name will be familiar to you. Molly was a Mohawk woman in pre-Revolutionary America who grew up Anglican and was a remarkable bridge between the Mohawk and British communities. She was a leader in her communities at a time of great political and societal upheaval. As scholars have noted, “Although Molly received an education from Christian missionaries and was a devout Anglican, she retained a respectful devotion to many Mohawk customs, which allowed her to serve as a consensus-builder between two nations.”

This is not unlike where we find ourselves today as the Episcopal Church in CT. We are faced with the challenge of moving forward into a new world, a new century, a new way of being without losing our heritage or our identity. I think the Holy Spirit was up to something that this gathering is held on the feast day of Molly Brant. It has been noted that Molly Brant was “a woman who lived beyond the cultural, political, and religious limitations of her era. She faithfully integrated her Anglican faith with her Mohawk heritage without confusing the two.” She can be a model for us as one who knew how to hold on to one’s heritage, to bring together the best of two seemingly disparate sides to create a more promising future. Re-imagining the Episcopal Church in CT is about thinking outside the box. It is about re-shaping ourselves to best fit the needs of the 21st century, while simultaneously preserving the best of our heritage and traditions.

I am actually very excited about the opportunity that lies before us. One of the things I love about serving as the Dean of Formation is that I have the opportunity to work with folks in discernment, in the ordination process and those who are newly ordained. No matter their chronological age, these folks are full of hope and new ideas. They are passionate about their love for Jesus, for our Church and for God’s people. They are chomping at the bit to get started and to make a difference. They also see things differently. Few of them are anticipating careers in full-time parish ministry. They imagine ministries in prisons, in schools, in hospitals, in coffee shops and art studios. They imagine ministries that take them out into the world to meet people. Their passion is contagious. Their excitement and new ideas have shown me that we need a church structure, locally and across the Episcopal Church that can better serve the leaders of the future.  

How radically different the future structure might be from the current or the past remains to be seen. One of the things I love about my Wednesday morning breakfasts is that they are a mix of the old and the new Church. As I have noted, the collective experience of most of those at the table spans a good portion of the mid and late 20th century Episcopal Church. I, on the other hand, was born at the end of the 20th century. I have only been ordained for 10 years. God willing, I have many more decades of ordained ministry ahead of me. From my friends at the breakfast table, I have gained a greater knowledge of and appreciation for the richness of our Anglican heritage. And I have received a deep appreciation of my ministry, as well as the efforts to imagine and create a more nimble Episcopal Church that is even more deeply engaged in God’s mission in the world.

Our readings remind us of our unity and that there is much to be learned from each other. I hope our time together today, and going forward can be one of rich engagement and sharing. You all bring great wisdom and experience, as well as a lived appreciation for the depths and riches of the Anglican tradition. As together we imagine the future, I hope your collective wisdom can be the foundation on which we build a new structure for our common life as faithful Episcopalians in Connecticut.

AMEN.


Monday, March 30, 2015


A recent clergy gathering focused on the issues of Alcoholism and Addiction in the Church. Clergy, in particular, can have an important role to play in helping people get the help they need. Clergy are also at risk for substance abuse, and so the whole Church needs to be aware of these issues and on the lookout for anyone in our community who may be struggling. Below are some valuable resources. Please let me know if you have more to add to this list. Thank you!

Letter from our Bishops, including link to model Alcohol Policy:
https://www.episcopalct.org/news/bishops39-letter-on-health-and-wholeness/

Alcoholics Anonymous CT meeting finder:
http://www.ct-aa.org/find-a-meeting/

AA Resources
http://www.ct-aa.org/home/

Alcoholism and the Church
http://www.amazon.com/You-Think-Dont-Know-Congregations/dp/081922412X/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1427730627&sr=1-1&keywords=chilton+knudsen

General Convention Resolution on Alcohol and Drug Abuse:
http://www.episcopalarchives.org/cgi-bin/acts/acts_resolution.pl?resolution=1985-a083

End of Life Resources


I recently gave a talk at an Adult Forum on end of life issues, and wanted to share these resources here, in case they are of assistance in your ministry. 


ONLINE RESOURCES



HAVING THE CONVERSATION . . .

When to talk?
Over Coffee
Professional Capacity
Major Life Events - Baptism, Wedding, etc.
Onset of Illness
Advance Planning of Funerals
Adult Education Forum at our places of Worship
Sparked by something in news or conversation
Anytime - because it is important to YOU

Questions to Ask
What are are your hopes? What are your fears?
What experiences have shaped your thoughts about medical care at the end of life?
What is YOUR definition of good quality of life?
When would you want your care to change from aggressive to palliative?
What gives your life meaning?
What brings you joy?
What questions do you have?
What does your ideal death look like?
What rituals/religious practices are most important to you?
Who would you like to make decisions for you?  

Tuesday, February 10, 2015

The gifts and challenges of Clinical Pastoral Education (CPE)



Thoughts on CPE
One requirement of the ordination process that strikes fear into the heart of many is the requirement to do a unit of CPE (Clincal Pastoral Education). In a nutshell, CPE is a practical internship that provides training in pastoral care and chaplaincy, usually done in a health care setting. For some it is simply the fear of the unknown. For others it is a fear or dislike of hospitals. For the introverts among us, the thought of walking cold into someone's hospital room and introducing yourself as the chaplain is terrifying. We might prefer a root canal. Others have heard stories of harsh supervisors or problematic group dynamics that have made for unpleasant CPE experiences. While it is true that not everyone comes to love CPE or have a wonderful experience, I hope some of my reflections below can help ease some fears and help you to get the most out of your CPE experience. 

First off, I will confess to being one who loves CPE. I have done four units of it, and I am incredibly grateful for the gifts and ways it has shaped me and my ministry. I also know that it can be an incredibly challenging time, and for many one unit is all they would like to do!

Pick your site
We in CT are blessed to be in a rather CPE dense area of the country. Within CT or within an hour of our borders we have numerous CPE sites. This means it will likely be possible for you to have some choice in where you do your CPE. I strongly recommend applying to more than one place. Go and interview. CPE is a profound and enriching experience, and much of it hinges on the relationship with your supervisor. Think of the interview as an opportunity for you to interview the site and your potential supervisor as much as it is an interview of you. If at all possible, choose the site that feels like the best match for you. 

Variety and Breadth
If at all possible, I recommend doing CPE in a Level 1 Trauma facility. For the most part this means a large, urban (often teaching) hospital. This is not to say that you cannot have a great experience at a small town hospital - you certainly can! The advantage of a Level 1 Trauma facility is that it will allow you to see a great variety of people and circumstances. You will truly see the breadth of the human condition and the human family there. 

Extended vs. Intensive
If the constraints of your professional obligations or family life are such that you cannot take a summer off to spend 40-60 hours a week doing CPE, then the answer is that you need to do an Extended Unit (part-time, ~ 10-15 hours a week during the academic year). If you have flexibility in your schedule, there is certainly something to be said for doing it all at once in a 10 week internship. Particularly, if you think you might be called to healthcare chaplaincy, I would strongly recommend the Summer Intensive as a way to try that on. 

Be Gentle with Yourself
While CPE is an incredibly rewarding and enriching experience, it is also exhausting - physically and emotionally. It is not a good idea to plan to accomplish a whole lot else while doing CPE. You need time to do your clinic hours, time to write verbatims, and most of all, you need time to process. The incredible privilege of chaplaincy is that you are right there to walk with people in some of the most profound moments of their lives. That is a gift and a burden. In CPE you will witness a great deal of suffering, and you need time to process that. We can suffer vicariously just by witnessing trauma, and so it is important to be gentle with yourself. Additionally, CPE helps us to be better caregivers because it asks us to examine our own lives and stories to see what baggage it is that we bring with us into the hospital rooms we visit. That is essential work to our formation as ministers, and it is challenging and exhausting. Be sure you have your personal emotional and spiritual support system strongly in place while doing CPE. Prayer, conversation, time to laugh with friends will all be very important in helping you cope with the remarkable learning experience that is CPE!





Tuesday, January 20, 2015

Staying Connected



A few thoughts on staying connected . . .

Note on the image: I chose this image because it shows people (not just a graphic of connecting wires or puzzle pieces) and because it shows the virtual connection of a video conference. I think both kinds of connecting are important - incarnate and virtual - and both have their place. Often times the virtual method makes connections possible that would not otherwise be possible, and we also need to be sure that our connections are not only virtual.

Bishop Ian recently passed along this article on the value of bi-vocational clergy: http://thomrainer.com/2015/01/19/eight-reasons-fulltime-pastors-staff-go-bivocational/
While it makes a number of excellent points about the gifts bi-vocational clergy bring to the church, what I'd like to reflect on here is the broader theme of staying connected. Thom Rainer argues that one of the main gifts bi-vocational clergy bring are a connectedness to the outside world. It is so easy in life generally, and somehow in the church particularly, to become inwardly focused and insulated from the world. We can become so concerned about maintaining the status quo and responding to our own needs and desires that we can miss what is going on in the world around us. By necessity bi-vocational clergy are back and forth between church and world. They are bridges. Sounds a bit like a deacon. Perhaps we could refer to deacons as "the original bi-vocational clergy." :)

While I do think this is a gift of bi-vocational clergy, I also think it touches on a point that is relevant to all of us who work in the church (lay and ordained). It would behoove all of us to note the value of staying connected to the world. If the church exists as to serve God's mission in the world, then we always need to be communicating the needs of the world to the church and forming and supporting the members of the church to help meet those needs. So all of us need to stay connected to the world. Not to mention, it is also just good for one's sense of self and for self-care to be connected more broadly than the institution of the church. So, here are 5 tips for staying connected to the world. 

1. Read the Newspaper 
Okay, well maybe not the literal newspaper. Perhaps it is an app on your smartphone or a  or the start page in your browser. Maybe you get email alerts of breaking news from your local newspaper, or at least the biggest paper in your state. Maybe you scan the headlines on the BBC, The New York Times or CNN. Maybe you listen to NPR when driving in your car. However you access it, there is great value in keeping track of the news in your town and around the world. Our sermons are better, our relationships stronger because we are connected to our communities and the needs of the world. 

2. Shop Local 
Get to know the business in your local area. Whether you are in an urban setting with lots around you or a small rural setting with miles between you and "civilization," try to build relationships with those around you. You never know what opportunities for service or evangelism might arise because of a conversation you had with the proprietor of a local restaurant or the post office employee. 

3. Colleagues
A great way to remember that the church and the world are bigger than whatever little corner of it we might be serving, is to develop colleague relationships across the wider church. Whether this is through seminary classmates, people you meet at CREDO or another professional education event or even a local colleague group, there is much to be said for hearing what others are up to in their ministry. There is much support and great idea sharing that can happen in this groups, so be sure they are a part of your ministry!

4. Old Friends and some new 
While it is great to have those with whom you can "talk shop," it is also essential to stay connected to people who are not in the church. Be sure that you keep a few friends who knew you before you ever went to seminary or started working for the church. They are essential for keeping us humble. Particularly for us clergy, if we are not careful the power of our office can easily go to our heads. We also need people who help us remember that there is more to who we are than our job titles. We need people with whom we do not have any professional obligations. People with whom we can laugh, cry and be ourselves. If you don't have old friends nearby or that you can connect with regularly, it can definitely be worthwhile to work on making some new ones. 

5. Sabbath - Practices of Prayer and Refreshment
And of course there is another connection that needs to be maintained for us to flourish in our ministry - the connected to God. While it can be tempting to get lost in or become beholden to our "To Do" List, practices of prayer and refreshment are essential for keeping us well - in all senses. This should perhaps be number one, for without this connection, without a regular rhythm of prayer and relaxation built into our lives we run the risk of being overwhelmed by the needs of the world or become mired in the minutia of daily life in the church. May our spiritual disciplines and practices be the foundation from which we build the rest of our connections to each other and to the world.